Have You Mourned Enough Yet?

So often I hear people say, "I feel so awful, I'll never get over him/her." You do know that eventually you will get over them, don't you? Grieving is normal. It's when you get stuck in this stage of healing that causes people so much unnecessary pain. I'll never forget the time when I felt horrible, I felt stuck and I couldn't give up my misery. I was holding onto the past as if it was a life line. And then came along the words of wisdom that only a sister can bestow upon you. She said, "You were actually really miserable in your relationship, you weren't getting very many of your needs met, and you know that eventually you'll get over him just as you did the last guy. So instead of crying over this jerk, why don't we go out and celebrate?" And that's exactly what we did, we celebrated that fact that I had a new start and I would never have to put up with all of the things that were making me unhappy. We celebrated that it ended when it did and I didn't waste another 2, or 5 or 8 more years trying to make a relationship work that was clearly not what I deserved. So dry your tears, get your closest family or friends and celebrate the fact that you now have a chance of putting your life back on track. And going forward your tears will be tears of laughter and joy, not of sorrow and pain.